When was the last time you listened to your body; I mean, really listen to it? Did you voluntarily listen to it or did it have to cry out for your attention? It is not atypical for us to ignore our body’s messages for fear that if we do pay attention to it, we may just have to acknowledge it and do something about it. “Who’s got time for that? Besides, these pains are normal. They will go away.”
The last 3 weeks, my body has been speaking to me loud and clear. I was hit by the virus that is going around with sore throat, ear ache, hacking annoying cough and body aches. My immune system is usually pretty strong and for some reason my body decided to rebel. I was truly given no choice but to give in to it’s demands of rest and self nuturing. My mother kept telling me to take something for it, go get anibiotics etc. Most of us are so quick to look for a quick fix to the ‘feeling’ of discomfort and not willing to take the time to listen.
During that time I looked at the patterns of behaviour my body tends to take on. What I noticed was that when I begin a conscious intent of looking after myself, by paying attention to my nutrition and working out with a personal trainer, my body starts to give me grief. It either decides to get sick or I will pull a muscle which slows down my workout intensity etc. I notice that my immediate reaction is to get ‘pissed off’ and go into the victim mode of ‘why me?’ I start to tell myself that it isn’t fair and ask myself, “Why is it everytime I go to do something right, somebody (my body) has to make it difficult for me? What’s it trying to tell me?” Luckily I have done enough personal work to stop myself from entertaining the victim in me and begin to listen. I take my suit of armour off and embrace what it is wanting to tell me. It is not only me on an intellectual level that needs help and support to step into eating properly and moving more through exercise but my body needs help too. It is no different than me in wanting to resist change, no matter how unhealthy my previous choices may have been. It knows the comfort of pain and sometimes enjoys the comfort of a pain killer when it wants attention. “So why are you doing this to me?” it might ask. It too likes to be a victim of it’s circumstances.
So, I have come to learn that not only do I need the help and support but so does my body. And so with kindness, tenderness and good loving intention I am able to help it by naturally providing it with natural anti inflammatories and immune boosters etc to aid in the gentle acceptance of the love I provide it. Like any relationship, whether with someone else or yourself, a dose of listening, truly listening, can go a long way.