So persistence, what is persistence? It’s a form of stubbornness which could be a quality or it could be, in some eyes, too pushy.
It’s interesting because there was one day when my daughter was much younger and I’d walk into the room and she would just say “why are you sighing? Why are you breathing that way?” and it just didn’t seem that anything I could do was right. So I walked away and I thought do I even like this child anymore? I love her, I mean it was one of those days when as a mother I was questioning why I became a mother.
But I sat down and actually looked at some of the qualities my daughter has and I thought I need to find something. I’m sure there’s something there that I like about her. So I sat down and looked at my page for quite a while, and then I went “she’s stubborn.” Persistent, stubborn in her own way. I thought to myself, that is a quality. It’s actually a quality.
That got me flowing and I wrote about 50 qualities that my daughter had. After I let it be, I filed it away in her folder and I went back down to the kitchen where she was and for the first time in weeks she turned around and said,”Hey mom, you want to do something?”
See the energy that I found, when finding something that I liked about her, created a different energy between us. One of the things I do with my clients is I actually say Take a piece of paper and write down all of your qualities. Ask your friends, ask your family, and ask people that you work with, what is one of your qualities? Send an email out! Ask them all.
Then you come back with 50 qualities. Write them on pieces of paper, type them out and cut them up. Put them in a jar, have your jar, your husband’s jar, your kids jar, whatever it is or whoever’s living in the house, and every morning go in and pull one of those words out, and LIVE that quality for the full day. So if today is about being stubborn, be stubborn! Be persistent!